how my husband taught us all the greatest lesson in love

I’ve been largely absent from this space.

When you take a leave, it’s hard to know what the right words are to re-enter.

But what I wanted to share was not about tragedy but about brightness that comes from dark days.

We have had our fair share of dark days in the last few months. And talking about it in a place that is your creative space and outlet to talk about business ventures hardly seems “fun” or even appropriate. But I think the lesson of love is worth sharing.

When my twins were born, my Mother-in-law was the first person waiting in my room when they wheeled me back from delivery. Without fail, she visited with all of our children, at least once a week until several months ago. She was ever present in our lives everyday.

She was my youngest, my Sprout’s very best friend. When you would ask Sprout where she wanted to go on a day off of school – the zoo or Grandmas….she excitedly would yell, “GRANDMAS!”. They had a very special relationship.

My Mother-in-law has battled two different types of cancer in her lifetime. And when they told her for the 3rd time, they thought she had cancer – she politely said No Thank You to cancer and just lived and loved the most that she could in the time she had left.

She was really good at that.

So these last few months over the winter when she became very ill, my husband (with help from his brothers and a cousin who is really more of a sister than a cousin) became her full time caregiver.

What my husband did during those 56 days of her acute illness was teach our daughters a lesson in love that was priceless and irreplaceable and will stay with them as they grow and have families of their own someday.

My daughters watched their Dad tenderly care for his mother, love her, hold her hand, prepare meals for her, help her in every possible way you could imagine and well beyond.

They watched their Dad and their Uncles be vulnerable.

They watched their Dad be strong and at the same time, weak from exhaustion and sadness.

They watched their Dad put all of his energy into loving his Mother as much as he could every day. Not just when she was sick. But everyday. He always has.

It took a fair amount on everyone’s part to care for Grandma. There is not an ounce of it that any of us would trade for the world.

We were reminded that we are never closer to God than we are when we are with someone transitioning from this life to the next.

Our daughters saw their father’s faith in action and unconditional love and sacrifice.  I’m not sure what better lesson they could ever receive than to see how we care for one another above all other things.

It’s all that we have and it’s all that matters. Each other. Here. Now. For Always.

It’s the greatest lesson in love I think they may ever learn from their Dad. Not by his words but by his actions.

In that darkness and sadness of saying goodbye, there was so much bright light and love that I know it will carry our girls all the rest of their days until they are reunited again.

We are celebrating this sweet woman’s life soon with our family and while I know there may be tears, there will be so much love and laughter. There will be hugs. There will be stories. It will be beautiful.

And my daughters will see just how great this love is for family and it will become part of who they are, how they love, forever.

What a gift.

 

 

[ infinity scarves ]

My two peas are pretty obsessed with scarves right now.
I can’t keep up with how many they want to buy so I decided to make them a few.

Turns out, I’m equally obsessed. Warm, comfy, and a hint of color with jeans and tee…they look fabulous on dreary winter days. Found this plaid flannel recently along with 4 other plaids that the girls loved.
They go with almost everything.

They are the perfect quick sewing project and fabulous gifts too.
This is for sure my go-to gift giving item for Valentines Day.

So simple to make.
You’ll need a nice continuous 2 yards of fabric (or patchwork piece some fabrics together for a really eclectic look).

  1. Cut fabric 64″ long x 22″ wide.
  2. Right sides facing, sew the long edge, starting and stopping 2″ from the ends.
  3. Turn right side out. Bring your two short ends together, match the end points, right sides facing.
  4. Pin.
  5. Sew all the way around from point to point. You will be left with a gap open where the long center seam stopped.
  6. Your scarf is now in a continuous circle.
  7. Pull everything right side out and stitch your opening closed either by hand or on your machine.

{sewn on the Bernina B580 – which I love love love….I have her on a test run through this Spring, thank you Bernina USA. Good luck to the UPS guy who comes to reclaim her. I may ignore the doorbell. Forever. She totally rocks.}

If you’re not so much into sewing and would like one of these extras I have on hand, let me know.
Um, I did over buy on plaid flannel a bit and have roughly 6 or so extra scarves.
email me at info (AT) twopeasinapoddesigns (DOT) com
I will be selling a few of the extras at one of my fav boutiques, Georgie Emerson Vintage too.

[ trusting in your talents ]

“Your talents are a gift. Are you just going to drop them, hoping that someone will give you your dream job and a fat salary just for being you? Or are you going to take responsibility for what you’ve got and really push yourself to do something great with those gifts? You have to believe in yourself enough to know that you’ve got talent and that you are worth the investment of time and effort. God valued you enough to give you those abilities. Value yourself enough to grow those talents to become great.” – Michael Oher in “I Beat the Odds”

One of my friends posted this quote on Facebook this morning. Michael Oher is the kid who found a forever family, football fame and had his life story made into the movie, The Blind Side.

I’ve had this mental block for awhile now since I finished writing my book. I’ve found it hard to even organize my thoughts. I’m not sure why. I’ve had plenty of time to decompress and move forward.

I think partially, it’s fear.

I’m not sure what is next. I don’t know what God has planned for me. I don’t know where to focus. Many days, I feel pulled in far too many directions. I think this is natural for a lot of people. You can’t be on your game all the time.

This quote just gave me an “Ah-ha” moment this morning.
Each of us, me, you, all of us…are born with talents. To teach children, to help people manage their finances, to care for people when they are sick, to build buildings, or make art…each of us has a talent.

How we will use it, share it, hone it, work on it, let it be of service to the greater good…all depends on believing in ourselves. And trust. Trusting that God knows what he’s doing and that our hands will do His work, whatever our work may be.

So, although I may feel like my brain is working in a vat of molasses…there’s a process and a reason and an opportunity for me, for you, to grow in who we were made to be.

I think I should get some gummy bears, coffee and ponder this thought a bit more. Gummy bears and Coffee always seem to make things better.